English 2 -The Pursuit of Happyness

The roles and elements of communication can be siphoned in various scenes in this movie.  It was the contributing factors of Chris Gartner’s eventual success as a stock broker with a multi million dollar deal.  Although some scenarios may have been unrealistic and exaggerated from our normal response; it demonstrates how feedback between sender and receiver can influence the outcome of interpersonal relationship.

The movie started off with barrier in communications between Chris Gartner, the Chinese cleaner who does not understand English and later the Chinese teacher at the day care centre in China Town where Chris sends his son to every morning. The cleaner kept repeating in Cantonese that he does not understand English when Chris reprimanded that someone should clean the graffiti on the wall and the word ‘happyness’ is spelled with the letter ‘i’ and not ‘y’

In the interview for the internship at Dean Witter as a stock broker; he impressed Jay Twistler and the board of Directors.  Dressing like a garbage man can be deemed as inducing ‘noise’, in a formal communication setting of such.  Although not the normal everyday feedback that we can expect in life; his was a comical example of how listening and the appropriate feedback can create the rapport needed.  He managed to change the perception of the board; especially that of Mr. Frompt; the one who will eventually pay his salary.  Mr. Frompt even remembers his name when they bumped into each other on the busy street.

At Dean Witter, the chance of getting the job was one out of twenty in each batch.  The policy was; “whoever brings in the most money gets the job”.  Chris built a rapport with Mr. Walter Ribbon; the top man of Pacific Bell; through an informal channel.  He capitalized on the great pastime of American football and family values. Although unfavorable at first; this got Chris the breakthrough deal that landed him the stock broking job in the last worrying days of his internship. 

To survive the last month of his internship; Chris managed to sell his last set of bone scanner.  The doctor empathized with him and decided to give him a sincere second chance to demonstrate the machine.  It was possibly his body language. Despite radiating a sense of desperation to sell the machine; Chris demonstrated well maintained attitudes.

An example of intrapersonal communication was his self talk. “Don’t let somebody tell you that you can’t do something. You got a dream, you got to protect it! You want something, go get it!”

FP106 Essay: Euthanasia

Should Euthanasia be legalized?

As to why God retracted his decision of life between 500 to 700 years granted to Abraham & his descendants; reducing human mortality to a maximum of a mere century; is not a question that can be debated or protested upon. It was an honor; in the biblical times when ones duty to replenish the earth is diligently obeyed and deemed completed; to accept humbly when the time has come for the day is done.   With merely one hundred years to live now; nobody is ever ready to die but yet nobody wishes to suffer to survive either. 

Medical academics have sinful hands in going against the will of God.  Attempting to cure the incurable, extending life support and creating false hopes with half baked ideas that yield remote success are acts of the devil in the white coat disguise.  Unscrupulous groups and academics are exploiting the world beneath the integrity of the ‘White Coat’, churning peoples’ hopes into a business model. Claims of breakthroughs have depleted enormous funds in the name of research.  Touching base first, secures royalty of intellectual protection mainly to support the vanity of lavish lifestyle common to the profession. 

Debating Euthanasia surely triggers the mental flip-flop; between the emotional state of the mind and the filtered conscious rationale; that can never find its way out of the fog.  Support for Euthanasia becomes a social stigma; a stand if taken will definitely stain the integrity of a person. Embracing or even worst, having to shoulder the weight of legislating Euthanasia is deemed widely as heartless or back-fired as playing God.

Wealthy people, Royals, prominent head of states have died of incurable diseases despite exhausting unbelievable hefty amounts of money available to them.  The inequity of wealth and influence is so wide between the rich and the average; let alone the poor; that the ordinary man-in-the-street simply does not have the luxury to deal with terminal illness in the face.  To hold on to the very last straws of hope is to literally take the entire family; young and old into burial.

Hospice and palliative care services has found little or no help; no public funding to support the easing of the transition.  As much as they are willed to their noble cause; more than a handful has since wound up in the last two years.  Contradicting to the issue, foundations that are supposedly wired to the mission to save life have seen many pampering their lavish habits helping themselves with public funding.  What used to be the light at the end of the tunnel became subjects of audits due to the greed of man.

As the Serpent has tempted the origin of mankind to eat from the Tree of Knowledge; it has now succeeded in tempting man once again to eat from the Tree of Life. Euthanasia; the slithery term has not only become the serpent’s shield but has intertwined man so tightly to an inescapable struggle.

FP106 Assignment : Conflicts

Q2) Suggest strategies for conflict management.

Conflict can be reduced by intuitive listening and then evaluating the possible emotional impact of our response to our intended receiver each time we interact.  Instead of consciously installing the tiring negative sign; ‘Beware Conflict’ in the fore front of our minds; we make it a habit of putting ourselves in the ‘shoes’ of the receiver.  Whenever we make a suggestion, form an opinion or in some cases, initiating a set of imposing rules; embracing this mindset becomes meaningful for maintaining good relationships.  This is one tough cornerstone that we must rigidly secure when we truly seek success in our career, rapport with our friends and colleges, and harmony with our loved ones.

Majority of private businesses are not transacted solely under rigid rationale that a supplier is one who has the ability to offer the best product.  Service attitude is a crucial factor in an ideal win-win situation.  When we understand and place our concerns genuinely with the client’s issue and do the utmost to resolve that one small hurdle that is sitting between a deal, successes will not be too far away.

There are always competing wants at every level of any company.  From the top partners to the lowest ranking janitors; conflicts are inevitable. People in general put their personal interest in the fore front.  Having good rapport with colleges is essential in any line of work.  Here is one neurological linguistic programming technique. When we make it a habit to adopt subtle physiological mirroring of the person you are engaged in a conversation with; a natural signal will be transmitted.  It carries an unconscious message that says; “I am like you and therefore you can like me”.  This way, conflict will almost always make way for successful interpersonal negotiations.  When practiced often, a person can become so natural that, one day he finds that he will not need to negotiate anymore. No one ever need to negotiate with themselves.

Home is a place that all of us work our life for.  It is a place that we expect to find peace and harmony after an honest day’s work.  Asserting power, having dogmatic views or simply setting curfew hours on our teenage children can only reap conflicting results. If we eliminate our own expectation and look at the situation as if we were in their age; we will realize their inner world is not so different from ours.  Understanding the real underlying problem that may not be apparent at first, will one be able to choose wisely to adopt either a permissive or authoritative approach to resolve a conflicting issue at home. 

 Call it a charisma, leadership quality, a divine gift of power bestowed; this is one powerful tool that one should be equipped with when engaging people in our daily life. But if everything else fails, the best will simply be, to avoid a collision course.

Essay - Needs

2.  How are people’s behavior and decision affected by their definition of ‘needs’? Discuss.

In today’s society; assuming that the economy has achieved its comfort level, the needs of people are mainly emotional resonance driven by their secondary gains.  When one is satisfied another will sprout.  Needs changes chronologically but is crucially dictated by the immediate situation that one is faced with.   However preferential a need may be; it will shift, de-energize; and even reset to basics physiological needs when an environmental threat arises; directly or indirectly.

As Technology churns out new ideas; behavior of every day life takes a shift almost too soon. Updating and owning the latest gadgets has become a need more than a trend.  People today simply cannot function when they do not have their mobile 3G phones.   

Traditional business needs starts to de-energize as the internet advances.   Cyberspace allows people to find new avenues to trade.  Businesses today, no longer operate in the old perimeters as anyone is able to reach out globally.  Less personal business interaction is needed.  The need to depend solely on domestic circles are days of the past.  This means that maintaining an expensive car and a country club membership to display financial credibility is no longer a preferential need.

The recent days have witnessed how mother earth fights back.  Infrastructures were brought down practically overnight.  This is the time that all the needs of mankind become secondary; resetting to the basic physiological needs.  At a time like this, all anybody care about will be the immediate crucial need for survival; food, water and shelter.

People’s behavior and decision in developed countries will always be affected by their definition of ‘needs’.  Our world has gotten so embroiled to new technologies that our needs have defined us instead.  Everyone will literally be crippled at a time of a catastrophe without their mobile phone or their wheels.  

Albert Einstein said; "I know not with what weapon World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones.” The craving needs of nuclear supremacy by powerful countries will eventually lead to total devastation.

CT4 Tuitorial Essay - Success

2. How does our view of success influence the path we choose in our life? 


Our view of success alone will not clearly unveil the path that we can choose to achieve whatever goals in life.  Before anybody can find his road to success, he must first be able to imagine clearly what he desires as a final outcome.  The power to imagine success is the catalyst that will crystalize the raw perception. Thus the ability of a person to conceive virtually and kinesthically in his mind; the success he desires, is his guiding force that will encompass him in that direction.



How we visualize success uniquely within the domains of our minds is the first basic step. One simple way to set a person in that state is to ask him to close his eyes and virtually see himself in his dream car.  Lets assume that it is a Ferrari that he has worked and paid fully for.  Have him clearly see the type of car; the color of the car, its upholstery and details of the dashboard.  Then have him imagine listening to the sound of the engine as he move it into gear.


And what has kinesthetics got to do with it here? Linking emotions and allowing that video that is running in the mind to take its own course is most important.  This is the way to short circuits the critial factor; a filter that takes reference to our past experience, values, believes and fears.  Critical factor is the devil's advocate. It's this inner voice that sabotages us so often by questioning; "What if ?" and  rebutting; "Yes, but ".  It is that part of our mind that holds us back from ultimate greatness.  It imposes logical thinking separating us from engaging what the heart yearns for.


Coupling the visual, audio and emotion generates a powerful directional force. This physiological-emotional product is called feelings.  Feelings that are stored in our unconscious mind becomes our natural built-in guidance system.  Unleashing this unconscious feeling will lead us to the kind of success that our heart truely desires.  Recognizing that enables us to identify what we truly stand for. Letting these unregulated feelings track between the time-space state of our mind, only observing the unfolding mysteries will help us understand ourself better.  In the earlier example, we will understand where the money to buy that Ferrari can possibly be coming from.  That will eventually equate to the kind of work and lifestyle that one enjoy soaking in.  This knowledge helps us to initiate the course charting in that direction.


Richard Bentler is the founder of the Neuro Linguistic Programming. He has created a technology that people can find success in everything they set out to do with their life. Steven G. Jone uses the same technique that expands into his Life Coaching program. Our very own inspirational pace setting guru; Adam Khoo, calls this creating states in his Patterns of Excellence program.  Being true to our feelings is important in helping us choose the path that create not just a successful, but a unique meaningful life.

FP106 Chapter 1 page 10 Write your paragraph : Autism

Global statistics review that 6 out of every 1000 children are affected by what is widely known simply as ASD in short. Statistics also review that there are significantly more boy affected by this than girls. Some articles deduced that the female has an extra chromosone contributed by the biological father.

TEACCH is an educational system developed and adopted by major institutions all over the world, created mainly to equip this group of special needs children with cognitive and daily life skills. 

Articles on this so called Out-of-Synch child recommending therapy for Sensory Integration, Homeostasis Balance, GFCF (Gluten Free Casein Free) diets, Native Remedies, to an endless list of OT (Occupational Therapies) can be found at the mere click of the mouse in the recent days.

So what is ASD?

Imagine any one of the five basic senses is dysfunction. The impairment; whether it is in the over or under sensitive range, will cause so much disturbance that the brain cannot simply function in a regular mode. I often use the layman thought of being In-the-Fog when I try to describe the feeling to anyone who has not encountered or have never had the word "Autism" in their vocabulary.

Possible causes has been hotly debated for at least a decade. Despite all that has been said; the greatest of academics and doctors have declared that there is no known cure to Autism.

The world falls apart; especially with newly weds who eagerly desire to form a complete family; in the hope of grabbing that bundle of joy; the moment they receive confirmation that their first born child has been diagnosed with ASD.

Findings on Sensory Integration clearly illustrates that if we represent the five senses as the point of a star; then core that fundamentally holds them together is the vestibular balance and proprioceptive system. Very few websites takes this issue further than that.

As the human body is a 65% to 75% fluid system; my unqualified guess is;  through methodic, self exerted activation of the vestibular balance and proprioceptive system; we can modulate the interoceptive system that regulates the detoxing functions in order to maintain a healthy homeostatic balance.

FP106 Chapter 1D Write a paragraph about your general attitude towards writing

This is the first time I am putting in writing about my general attitude towards writing.   It came as no surprise that the scale of my negative inclination on writing is highest in the class. On the bright side; at least I am open and honest about it. It can serve as a good reflection for me to change what is possibly a phobia towards penning my personal thoughts or ventures.
Coupling my recent knowledge in the area of hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic Programming; I can now identify and relate my past experience with the natural stategies of the subconscious mind that resist putting thoughts into writing.
What was perceived simply as an everyday class in my primary school year has evolved into a livelong  negative emotions towards writing. I remember vividly as I put myself into self hypnosis; the day when the English teacher; who happened to be our form teacher came into the classroom and excitedly read out the handpicked few of the last essay entitled " What I do during my leisure time"
My was the first to be read. Despite the compliment of the well written works; I found myself having to sit with a girl who was transferred into the school for the rest of the year. This served as a punishment for the mischieves that I revealed of what me and my friends do during our leisure time.
Come to think of it; it could well be a reward if I was in the different age group when boys start to realize the importance of the weaker counterparts.
The inability to write without drifting, brain freeze or mental block; whichever terms to describe this; has indeed caused a big hinderance, setting me naturally to choose the path of a technocrat to that of an academic one.